{"id":1391,"date":"2010-07-11T14:10:00","date_gmt":"2010-07-11T14:10:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/writingya.com\/?p=1391"},"modified":"2018-11-20T05:32:58","modified_gmt":"2018-11-20T05:32:58","slug":"dear-teen-vogue-gay-guys-are-no","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/writingya.com\/?p=1391","title":{"rendered":"Dear Teen Vogue: Gay Guys Are Not An Accessory."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>From the article: <\/p>\n<blockquote><p><i>Reasons that the straight girl-gay guy relationship works so well both on- and offscreen can range drastically. But according to Jennifer Gray, Ph.D., a New York City psychologist who focuses on issues pertaining to human sexuality, it&#8217;s hard to find a female high school or college student who hasn&#8217;t experienced drama with a frenemy at one point or another. &#8220;Friendships between girls are often fraught with competition, whether it&#8217;s over looks, weight, boyfriends, or clothes,&#8221; she explains.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;But there is little underlying competition between young women and gay guys, which can often make for a stronger, more trusting relationship.&#8221; Gray says it can also be hard for many girls, particularly ones in high school, to have platonic relationships with heterosexual guys. &#8220;A lot of teenagers don&#8217;t feel comfortable around members of the opposite sex, and the friendships can get complicated,&#8221; she says. &#8220;It can also be hard to have a friend relationship at that age without one person developing some kind of feelings for the other.&#8221;<\/i><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><u><b>Teen Vogue Quiz Results!<\/b><\/u><br \/>-1 for a psychologist using the hipper-than-thou portmanteau word, &#8220;frenemy.&#8221;<br \/>-5,478 for implying that straight girls can&#8217;t be friends with other girls or even straight guys, because girls &#8220;need&#8221; that non-competitive clause.<br \/>-1,111,920,399,848,58 for working my nerves by being this stupid and declaring gay guys a <i>must-have accessory<\/i>. Seriously? Are we going back to slavery here? Because if people can be accessories, it must be okay to <i>own them<\/i>, too. <\/p>\n<p><b>:excessive temper:<\/b><br \/>If only it were April 1. If only there was the possibility that they weren&#8217;t seriously urging girls to go out and &#8220;get&#8221; a Johnny Weir lookalike bestie to match their Blackberry.<\/p>\n<p><i>GAH!!!<\/i> <br \/><a href=\"http:\/\/www.teenvogue.com\/connect\/blogs\/soundoff\/2010\/07\/gbf-gay-best-friend.html\" target= _blank>Seriously,<\/a> Teen Vogue. You&#8217;re turning my stomach, here. Do yourselves a favor: listen to Aretha. The word is R-E-S-P-E-C-T. And you need some.<\/p>\n<p>Hat tip to Salon.com<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>From the article: Reasons that the straight girl-gay guy relationship works so well both on- and offscreen can range drastically. But according to Jennifer&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[9],"class_list":["post-1391","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-soapbox"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/writingya.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1391","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/writingya.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/writingya.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/writingya.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/writingya.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1391"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/writingya.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1391\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6139,"href":"https:\/\/writingya.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1391\/revisions\/6139"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/writingya.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1391"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/writingya.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1391"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/writingya.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1391"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}