“You never would have guessed what I had been through; where I had been. I didn’t look “crazy”-I never had. I looked like any other teenage girl. I went to classes with everyone else. I talked to other kids. I attended school events. I would have the seen your dance team, had I gone to Waunakee High School. And you would never have known. In fact, the next time you perform, I want you to look at the kids in the audience. About 1 in 10 children under the age of eighteen have a mental illness; 1 in 5 have a serious mental illness (SMI) like the ones you mock. ONE IN FIVE.
How many kids are watching you perform? How many are in your school? How about in your district? Your town?” ~ Erika, age 14
I can guarantee you that we don’t do politics here in the Wonderland Neverland tree-ship. (Look, it’s a pirate-themed treehouse. Just…go with it.) We may watch the news, but it stays out of the blogging, unless it has something to do with young adults and children’s literature. This isn’t entirely about literature, but it does touch on children, young adults, and a big elephant in the room of our society.
We really admire and appreciate ourselves some Ned Vizzini, and we’re really glad that his book we enjoyed has recently gone on to movie fame. When I read his book in 2006, I was uncomfortable with how funny I found it — because Mental Illness Is Not Funny… but I reread it, and found myself relieved. It is real. It has poignancy and bright/dark moments which are so very normal to how life goes, to the way I feel. It’s Kind of a Funny Story is most important to me because it highlights the decision to live, and get help when faced with what a friend and I call Those Intrusive Thoughts that make hanging one’s toes off the edge of the Brooklyn Bridge at 3 a.m. seem like a really good idea.
Most people have a lot more experience with those kinds of thoughts than one might think.
Mental health issues are the biggest elephant in the room, EVER. They are hugely awkward in our society. When the “American dream” is to, by our own effort, rule our particular little worlds, a loss of control through mental challenges has a massive stigma to the American — heck, to the WORLD public. No one wants to be associated with the stereotypical “crazy person” who has to miss days of work and school, staying home and struggling. No one wants to be “that guy,” the one who has to take medication, who sometimes emotes too much – cries or laughs too easily, who has blackout panic attacks in a crowded hallway, or who falls apart at the drop of a grade.
It is something we all fear. Therefore, it’s really easy… to make fun of it.
Which is what happened, inadvertently, a few weeks ago at a Wisconsin high school. The pep rally routine featured cheerleaders with black makeup smeared on their faces, snarled hair, scary expressions, and the words “Psych Ward” on their straitjacket-looking uniforms as they danced through a “fun and catchy” song to get school spirit up and going. “We Get Crazy” is the title of their routine.
All right. The finger-pointing and shouty bits of the dialogue can go on without us. We can agree that the routine was insensitive and surreal without all of the screeching, and we can also probably agree that it was a misjudgment by the head coach, who isn’t an Evil Person and didn’t intend to humiliate or shame, just create a dance to a “catchy and amusing” hip-hop song.
Conversely, some of us might even agree with the NBC sportswriter who claimed that it’s a political thing and wrong to teach kids to back down under pressure, and that the cheerleaders should go on if they feel okay about things, and everyone is oversensitive these days, and should shut up. Yeah, someone can probably agree to parts of all of that.
I was able to pass the news story without public comment until I ran across a letter of response. Erika, who shares her story without adding a last name (for obvious reasons), writes with frustration and passion an open letter to the head coach of Waunakee Wisconsin High School.